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Couple Communication
• Listen, and without giving any advice unless asked. You may be surprised how
appreciative your partner can be
• Speak calmly and directly. Communicating through a third party, unless absolutely
necessary, can distort the messages and cause misunderstandings.
• Use sms or email sparingly. You know how easily misinterpretation can happen.
• Don’t generalise e.g. ‘”You’re always late”. Your partner will be defensive.
• Don’t argue. It usually gets nowhere. But do suggest that you continue the conversation
when the situation is calmer. When was the last time you regretted using anger words?
• Use non-verbal communication effectively e.g. just being with your partner without
having to talk but yet be responsive like responding with non exaggerated loving gazes.
• Don’t talk too much! Give your partner a break!
• When in a heated ‘conversation’ and wanting to win seems so important to both, try
surprising your partner with a “Maybe you’re right”. Some say that can be disarming!
• Be open and honest but do weigh your consequences first. Ever experienced this?
• Surprise your partner occasionally.
• When did you last compliment your partner? What was it like for you the last time your
partner complimented you?
Couple Communication
• Listen, and without giving any advice unless asked. You may be surprised how
appreciative your partner can be
• Speak calmly and directly. Communicating through a third party, unless absolutely
necessary, can distort the messages and cause misunderstandings.
• Use sms or email sparingly. You know how easily misinterpretation can happen.
• Don’t generalise e.g. ‘”You’re always late”. Your partner will be defensive.
• Don’t argue. It usually gets nowhere. But do suggest that you continue the conversation
when the situation is calmer. When was the last time you regretted using anger words?
• Use non-verbal communication effectively e.g. just being with your partner without
having to talk but yet be responsive like responding with non exaggerated loving gazes.
• Don’t talk too much! Give your partner a break!
• When in a heated ‘conversation’ and wanting to win seems so important to both, try
surprising your partner with a “Maybe you’re right”. Some say that can be disarming!
• Be open and honest but do weigh your consequences first. Ever experienced this?
• Surprise your partner occasionally.
• When did you last compliment your partner? What was it like for you the last time your
partner complimented you?