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Raising Children’s Esteem
• Sense of belonging - Children need to feel connected to their family or family of their creation if
their family of origin did not work out. Love them and show it. Make time for them and spend time
with them. Take an interest in what they do without being intrusive. Communicate with them in a
loving and respectful way. Remember to listen to them.
• Crisis period - Crises can be excellent opportunities to show that you care and love them. Do
offer to help them in times of need. The idea is to convey the message “I am here for you”.
• Taking risks - Children’s self-esteem increases when they are able to take risks and master
challenging tasks. The challenge is to find tasks that are challenging yet not impossible and to
encourage them by rewarding not only results but efforts too (show tolerance for failure that do
happen when taking risks).
• Encouragement - Children get things done, they feel better. Notice their accomplishments no
matter how small and compliment them.
• Sense of control - Children need to exercise developmentally appropriate amount of control over
their lives. Do provide opportunities for them to make choices but remember to set appropriate
limits too.
• No two children are alike in every way. Know and respect the differences. Accept and validate
their unique qualities.
Raising Children’s Esteem
• Sense of belonging - Children need to feel connected to their family or family of their creation if
their family of origin did not work out. Love them and show it. Make time for them and spend time
with them. Take an interest in what they do without being intrusive. Communicate with them in a
loving and respectful way. Remember to listen to them.
• Crisis period - Crises can be excellent opportunities to show that you care and love them. Do
offer to help them in times of need. The idea is to convey the message “I am here for you”.
• Taking risks - Children’s self-esteem increases when they are able to take risks and master
challenging tasks. The challenge is to find tasks that are challenging yet not impossible and to
encourage them by rewarding not only results but efforts too (show tolerance for failure that do
happen when taking risks).
• Encouragement - Children get things done, they feel better. Notice their accomplishments no
matter how small and compliment them.
• Sense of control - Children need to exercise developmentally appropriate amount of control over
their lives. Do provide opportunities for them to make choices but remember to set appropriate
limits too.
• No two children are alike in every way. Know and respect the differences. Accept and validate
their unique qualities.